Last year I wrote about effective goal setting, getting you to think about your ‘why’ and how to set yourself up for success by having a plan. I also created a free downloadable goals planner so you could write down your goals and action plan. If you missed it, you can download it here.
Now is the time of year that most people tend to set goals, both personal and work-related, that they would like to achieve for the year ahead. For the purpose of this article, I'll be talking about wellbeing goals. Whatever yours are, whether it’s to change your body composition, become more active, or better manage your sleep or stress levels, we can seldom achieve these goals without some help from others from time to time.
Let’s do a little exercise – write down the names of 6 or so people you spend the most time with. They might be work colleagues, family members, friends, etc. These people form your Circle of Influence, and are very important in helping you achieve your goals. Look at each name on your list and think about whether that person is a help or a hindrance. This is not necessarily about who is a positive or negative person but more about whether or not they support your goals with positive actions.
For example – you are trying to fit into your favourite pair of shorts after a little indulgence over Christmas. You really enjoy your weekly dinner with your best friend but she always insists on choosing restaurants with only unhealthy choices.
Negative influencers rarely try to negatively impact your goals, they’re often just unaware of how important what you’re trying to achieve is to you. Most of us have at least one person in our Circle of Influence who hinders our success. Most of the time, these are people we enjoy spending time with, so how can you turn them from a negative to a positive influence? Here are some steps you can take:
Talk to everyone on your circle of influence, tell them about your goals and why they are important to you.
If they are a positive influence, let them know how they can help you and that you would really like their continued support.
If they are a negative influence, think or write down how they hinder your success. Tell them that you need their help to succeed and let them know how they can help.
Changing or adding to your circle of influence – surround yourself with people that will support you and have your back. This might mean adding to your circle of influence or limiting the amount of time you spend with any negative influencers for a while.
Take control – tell your best friend that you would like to choose where you go out for dinner.
Be accountable – we are also part of our own Circle of Influence and we can sometimes blame others or make excuses for what we aren’t achieving.
I haven’t been able to exercise because it’s been too hot/raining/cold.
I’m too busy looking after my family to make time for myself.
There are always biscuits at work.
I’m too busy to cook healthy food
It’s hard to eat well when I travel
We all use excuses to make ourselves feel better. If your goals are important enough to you then you must take ownership, and you will succeed!
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